Believe it or not, us Tarot card readers are only human. As Tarot readers, there are certain things which we are all burning to say to our clients but do not. In this post, I am going to tell you the things which your card card reader wants to say but cannot due to lack of confidence, safety concerns or a desire to protect their seeker’s feelings.
Many years ago, one chilly March morning, I visited a client who had booked me for a Tarot reading at her home. The woman was in her late 50's, single, chain-smoking, unemployed, and from her own admission, she was always financially unstable and in and out of intense relationships.
Just like in most Tarot readings, my seeker desired to know what the future held when she was going to meet Mr. Right and what she could do to speed up the process.
Rather early on during our sitting, in fact, 5 minutes after meeting her, she told me that she would not settle. She refused to date anyone she described as 'old' (over the age of 25), someone pale (we live in Scotland), someone who was not ‘gorgeous’ and someone who was not rich. She also refused to try, not only online dating but anything which involved leaving the house to attract this man.
Now, don’t get me wrong I am a believe. I do think that some things are meant to be and that the right person does come along at the right time. However, I also know that the universe comes to those who go out and look for the things they want. I didn’t need to perform a Tarot reading to tell me that my seeker’s chances of finding Mr. Right while she sat on her couch were pretty slim.
I shuffled, and laid down her cards; they did not look good.
I slowly tried to think up ways to tell her that her chances of fulfilling her fantasize were rather slim. I conjured this prediction not just from her reading but also from her unwillingness to compromise her incredibly high expectations when she wasn't in a position where she had anything to offer this young, beautiful, wealthy, Arabian prince she so desperately ached for. However, I didn't get far enough to break the terrible news to her.
I said something which could be classed as somewhat pessimistic, and she blew that thing out of proportion (I can't remember exactly what it was it was so insignificant). I don't think I even got through 5 cards in her reading, but she spent the whole afternoon screaming "fuck the universe." There was one point she disappeared into her kitchen, and I thought she was going to come back with a knife and murder me. Yeah, it was brutal.
That day sticks in my mind because it was probably the most awkward, frightening and downright bizarre experiences of my life. Not only was it the worst Tarot reading experiences I ever had, but I left that session with many regrets. I never got far enough to say to her, "You need to lower your expectations."
I've since realized that many readers have had similar experiences; those experiences will vary in seriousness, but a common theme is that they wish they had said certain things which they never got the chance to.
Therefore, I've created this list of things your readers want to say to their clients but probably don’t. And trust me, Tarot readers are not immunes from this list; I have read other readers who I also wish I would have said one or two of these things too. Enjoy!
1: You're too Picky
I wish I had said this to my ex-client. I'm all for holding out for the right guy; however, it must be for the right reasons. Are you holding out due for superficial reasons such as age and looks? Or are you holding out for the right reasons such as values, morals, and ethics? If it's for the former, you might want to check yourself and be realistic while doing so.
Not only should you look for a partner for the right reasons, but you should keep in mind that a Tarot reading is not magic. Hiring a Tarot reader is only one step in the lists of things you could do to meet a partner. You have to actually leave the house if you want to meet new people. You cannot hire a Tarot reader and expect them to predict that you will meet someone if you have closed off all possibilities of ever having a relationship.
2: "You're too Clingy."
Okay, I get it. You've been dating a guy for all but six weeks now, and you're starting to wonder if he's the one. We are only human, and every woman does it because we don't want to waste our time on the wrong person.
However, there's a limit between planning for the future and being a bit creepy and stalkerish. Dating a guy and pondering the future of the relationship? In this instance, it's okay to get a reading. Starting to see/date a guy and wanting a reader to tell you if you have a shot at a future? This can be iffy, but okay if you have lots to lose in the relationship, like if you've been hurt in the past.
Spot a guy at the bus stop and want to get a reading cause you suspect he's the one? Want to know if the guy on Instagram who liked your picture is husband material? These instances both cross over into the kind of creepy. As a general rule, the less contact you have with a guy, the less likely you should be to run to a reader.
3: "I'm not God."
There is a particular type of client who is never happy with their readings no matter how much information you tell them. No joke, I've performed phone readings where I've told the seeker the color of their partner's t-shirt, the name of their dogs and their mother's date of birth and they were still unimpressed.
By contrast, I've performed other readings which were an hour of very general, self-help styled advice (drink more water, love yourself, etc.) and the clients raved about it.
Some people will never be happy with their readings no matter what. You have to remember that your reader is not God. Tarot readers are not all-knowing magical beings. If you find you have unrealistic expectations you may want to pull them back a bit. Which brings me to my next point;
4: "Psychic demonstrations on TV are not real life."
Seriously. When you watch these shows on TV, they are edited in such a way to make the psychic seem magical. However, remember you could be watching demonstrations tapped over hours with all of the mistakes, awkwardness, connecting time and blank stares edited out.
It's also important to note that that medium has the energy of hundreds of people to choose from whereas in one on ones they have to try to connect with just you. Different readers connect to different people, differently. One medium may be fantastic with one person but uninspiring with you. That's the risk you take when you hire a reader.
5: "We are not all the Same."
Often, seekers get disappointed because they choose the wrong type of reader. Do you want predictions? You're looking for a fortune teller. Want someone who can connect with spirit? You're looking for a medium. Just because someone has Tarot reading skills, doesn’t automatically mean they can speak to the dead, predict the future, or heal your pain.
In the same respect, it is the responsibility of the reader to be truthful with how they market their services if they either don't perform a particular reading style or aren't confident in doing so.
For example, I'm a medium, but I rarely advertise as such for two reasons. Firstly, where I live people usually assume that you're formally trained or affiliated with a spiritualist church (because there is such a church five minutes away from my house people often fasly assumed I was affiliated with them).
Secondly, I grew up when mediums were all the rave on British TV, and people often have unreal expectations of mediums because of that fact. I would instead someone book me and get a pleasant surprise than book me expecting mediumship and be disappointed if I can't connect as well as another medium could. Therefore, I like to avoid even mentioning mediumship.
So, that's it for the list of five things which your Tarot reader wants to say but probably doesn't. Remember, before you get a Tarot reading be sure to ask yourself:
- Am I too picky?
- Am I too clingy?
- Do I expect too much from my reader?
- Do I have realistic expectations of my Tarot reading?
- Do I understand what my reader's abilities are?
Thanks for reading!
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